baby · Breastfeeding · motherhood · Parenting

Tips for New moms on Breastfeeding with Joy!!

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Al hamdulilah we have completed 18 months of breastfeeding successfully and in shaa Allah have plans to breastfeed as long as babyA wishes!! Being a first time mom we would obviously have few doubts if we can or not. But in my case al hamdulilah the moment babyA was in my womb with the help of research and guidances i was mentally prepared to bond myself with the baby. I was confident enough to nurse her whatever happens. Even during the labour as soon as the baby was out,  the nurses started to convince me to get the formula milk in stock. To be frank i haven’t got a thought to get it even once. Al hamdulilah my sister is also breastfeeding her kiddo.  The moment my baby needs me irrespective of place, time etc., I nurse her.Initially I was shy to nurse in public but now we don’t mind. I really don’t know about others but this breastfeeding has helped me a lot during our flight journey. The main thing in this journey is trusting ourselves and being confident and firm that we can do it!!  To the new moms, here are my few tips regarding the breastfeeding
1. Trust yourself
Almighty has created everyone for a purpose and the science of body is made to perform the tasks assigned to each part of the body. So for instance heart pumps the blood, likewise the fingers are to hold an object. Similarly after the birth of the baby breast is to nurse the kid, calm down the crying baby, soothe him/her as a kid. So we will have to trust that we will have sufficient milk for our baby. To trust ourselves we will have to brush our basic education and understand the benefits of breastmilk and how the process works.
2. Supportive spouse
When nursing the baby the mind of the mom should be free from worries. This csn happen only when support arises from family members. Research says when there is support from the husband the wife enjoys the previlige of breastfeeding. Even if problem arises from the inlaws if husband helps in putting your foot down she will win the sky too. A supportive husband is a person who helps in daily activities and gets necessary items for the mom and the child.
3. Wear the dress which suits you
This is actually important. Practically a loose outfit will help us to pull up and nurse. It will help you to be confident enough to nurse no matter what who is nearby and where Re you. Try different options and fix which fits you no matter who taunts you. In the end of the day, your baby and you should be convenient and comfortable.
4. Make yourselves comfortable 
Earlier when you have a newborn you would need a nursing pillow and it really helped in balancing the baby and to keep the baby in the 45 degree angle. Later find a comfort zone might be a favourite chair or sofa. I had an arm chair which helped me a lot to balance between the nursing pillow a d my body. You can even lie down and nurse the baby. There are many methods. FIND a suitable position and stay comfortable.
5. Seek guidance
When you are carrying your baby get educated regarding breastfeeding and if at all you feel you don’t get milk try to seek help. There are many facebook groups which are supporting breastfeeding. You can either contact a lactation counsellor or a lactation consultant to help you so that you can enjoy the breastfeeding relationships without any discomfort.
These are the tips which I personally experienced and it clicked for us. Now i would request you to share your experiences on breastfeeding.

motherhood · Parenting

Best of Alizehmysoul 2017-Hi5!! It’s time for Best 5!!

PicsArt_12-28-06.21.39Its been around 6 months of active blogging and I had a wonderful journey in penning down my thoughts. This 2017 is a learning year for me. I have grown with my baby step by step and now we as a family are welcoming 2018. These 6 months with my blogging as a hobby I have gained wonderful followers and I do get encouragement to work on more on my niche. I just thought would you guys like to know the best of my work. Here I am linking up with some of the Best posts of ALIZEHMYSOUL.

1. Baby Alizeh’s Role in the Environment:

The best one of Alizehmysoul was the post where I wrote about Baby Alizeh’s role in the environment. Here we have discussed about the usage of Cloth diapers and nappies and how she made me to switch to the menstrual cup. We even have discussed about the food grade silicone teethers and why is it eco-friendly.Literally how my daughter is contributing towards the environment to make the place clean and healthy for the generations to come. This article was shared a few times then and I had people write to me to tell me how much it had helped them to realize how can we contribute towards the benefit of the world.

2. Attitude or Gratitude- A Simple note to Parents:

   This post was also written on June 2017. I wrote this because a thought struck on me. “Will babyA think about the efforts I put on her growth?” Will she be thinking about me once she finds her responsibilities? Then a mind voice asked me the same questions! I have combined the things which I did earlier and planned stuffs for the future in this space. It too had a good reach and was happy that I was accepted as a blogger!! To know more about it have a look at here!

3.20th Century Vs 21st Century moms:

This post was written on July in the view of a bloggers marathon and it had a good reach! Many agreed my views on why I supported 21st Century moms are better. 21st century results  are outcome based whereas 20th century is time based. To know what are the evidences I have given please do check my space.

4. Why and How should I register a carseat?:

        This post was a sponsored post but still very important. Here I have discussed about the importance of registering the carseat and the steps to register the carseat. To know more about it please do check out here.

5. Peek-a-P[boo]:

       This is a memorable post and when I wrote about it I got weird look from my husband but now based on the reach we both are laughing out. Can you imagine an article with poops and poops! Here you get an adventure of poop and stages. Few mommies said they were able to rewind how their mommy dates were full of poop talks and the blowouts. To experience the wonders of poop please do click here!!

You can visit the most popular posts by other Muslimah Bloggers below. Each blogger has chosen their five most popular post from 2017. These are the best of the best posts from around the web!

Best

 

JeddahMom

The Imperfect Muslimah

The Lady of the House

By Shahira

Alizehmysoul

Multicultural Motherhood

Umm Afraz Muhammed Blog

A Crafty Arab

Ilma Education

MyBlessedNest

Ilm Student Central

Mommy’s Next Step

AfreensKitchen

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baby · motherhood · Parenting

Jacket in a BabyCARSEAT? Yes or No

As winters are approaching I wanted to keep my baby warm but at the same time had to  check if she is safe and comfortable with the jackets ON in the carseat. I had to check on this because whenever babyA is in carseat with her jackets ON she used to cry her lungs out and will be in peace if she is out from the jacket. But I had no option to keep her warm. So ended up researching and was shocked to learn that kids shouldn’t be with the Jackets in a carseat. Even the adults shouldn’t be with their jackets within the seat belt.
Now lets see why is it unsafe?
In a crash, the maximum protection for a child  can be given only when the harness or seat belt is near the child. So its like the more close it is the more safe the baby is! The loose harness can fit the heavy coat but during a crash it won’t serve the purpose and the baby may even eject from the carseat. The principle is same for everyone so please donot use puffed jackets in your vehicle with the seatbelt mode ON.
How to check why is it unsafe?
1. Put the coat on and make your baby sit in the carseat and buckle the seat.
2.Tighten the harness to remove the slack.
3.Unbuckle the seat without loosing the harness.
4. Remove the coat and make the baby sit again.
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Image and knowledge sharing @thecarseatlady
Now you can check yourself the gap between the child and harness. This empty air will harm the kid and it doesn’t allow us to fulfill the purpose of using a baby carseat.
So our next question lies to what will be the scenario if we are using layering technique. Will that not harm then?
It will require a little harness adjustment unlike the puffy winter jackets. The layering technique will compress the air whereas the puffy jackets have uncompressed air. So there lays an issue. The slack can checked with the help of Pinch test.
The baby doesn’t feel cold actually. This is what i have learnt from babyA and that too within a car i don’t think so they would need the puffy jackets. If at all if you feel you need an option to cover them you can cover them with a baby blanket and a hat. This has helped us till now. You can even get the Cozywoggle and Poncho which are suitable for the carseat  where it doesn’t affect the harness. I started to research on this when a mommy friend of mine suggested to get a cozzgwoggle.
In fact there are many ways to use the car seat during winter. As a person who has moved recently from India, i felt spending dollars just for a cozzywoggle which she might outgrow soon wasn’t my take so i ended up using a blanket. There is no best option we will have to choose which is best for us. And I understood one point my baby is safe if i don’t introduce extra slack under the harness with almighty’s grace. Parenting is a never-ending learning process. I have learnt this part only through my daughter. Just because she cried I had to learn about the various options for warm and safe travel. She is my teacher, my guide right now. She has done her part to make me understand the safety measures and i have done my part to share with you guys! So what’s your take on this?
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motherhood · Parenting

Peek-a-P(b)oo

picsea-357044If a person talks about poop often he probably would be a doctor or a mother. If you speak about the poop without any shy then you are a mother ofcourse.

Discussion about poop may happen anywhere and infact everywhere. It might be on a dining table, date nights or even during hangouts.

We mothers wake up thinking about shit, if the baby hasn’t pooped a day anxiety arises and then we literally will be behind the baby to check if he/she has pooped.

Here we are going to check on the role of Poop from pregnancy till the end.

During Pregnancy 
All forms starting from constipation to diarrhea will happen in this stage. Whatever it is poop topic won’t be a conversation topic here. The topic will be zipped one not even to husband or to the doctor due to hesitation fearing bully. But seriously she wouldn’t have a clue that a big list is in wait thereafter.

During Labour
It’s a default that when you push out the little human in you, you invariably push out the poop too. Its a very common embarrassment that every mother faces. Its science of nature and none can escape from this incident.

After Labour
After the baby is out, the last thing which will happen is the bowel movement. From now ON everyone will talk about the poop. Few will get constipated and the whole team will speak about the steps to stimulate  the bowel. When you get your first poop after birth that’s where you will start thinking about poop. The word poop would have become a part and parcel of your life by then.

Newborn Poop
This is where you don’t care about embarrassing moments or comments regarding poop anymore . It becomes a norm. Starting from the meconium which is black tar sticky substance to the mustard coloured one. From now bum cleaning,becomes a skill and you would wait for the baby to poop. Poop becomes a point to track the jaundice level in baby and recording how often the baby poops. I still remember noting down the poop records in a book and eventhough i kept a track digitally  i was asked to track down in a paper by my cousin who happened to be a doctor.  Then the conversion of mustard colour poop and then comes the stages of poops where they will be frothy and not frothy. If its frothy how to overcome that. Its the relation between the foremilk and hindmilk.  You will save the pictures of the poop to show to the doctor to know the reason. Thanks to the family with years of experience who will easily give thousands of poop clarifications stories. History of gas issues. Massage stories what not. I luckily had my sister who took care about the poop job where she also discussed about it to her doctor friends to find a solution and the phase definitely consists of innumerable sleepless nights. Your sleep will be lost until they don’t poop. Its very common for breastfed babies to not to poop in their initial days but luckily we were in this stage for a day or two and we were back in track but in those two days i would have gone mad.
Just like the days move out the shit stories also move out and then comes the next stage of poop.

Blowouts
This is what worried me a lot when i was conceived looking at the blowouts the other kiddos had and the face of mommies went strange looking at the condition the baby was!. Luckily i hadn’t faced this condition as babyA was either in a nappy or a cloth diaper during this stage. Where we safeguarded the cloth she wore during the poop blast. As it was cloth the blast didn’t happen like it occurs in disposables. In the meantime there will be tension about the diaper rashes. Luckily our diaper rash history was minor. Even Before her bum cheeks becomes bright red or severely erythematous on  I would apply coconut oil or diaper cream to make her feel comfortable. Mommy anxiousness right! Luckily we crossed this stage and landed into the real poop phase.

Real Poop
Once my baby reached a stage where solids entered the real poop comes into picture. Since she eats cultural food her poop is going to be like adults. Since its a cloth diaper the smell is going to be natural without any fragrance. It will be so pungent. I din’t find it awkward because most of the time it’s only me and my kiddo. I myself at times  feel nauseated due to the pungent smell but above all if i don’t sniff it a single day it becomes a matter of anxiety and stress. Luckily I am happy we don’t face this issue frequently .When speaking about it to other mommy friends i feel better as obviously the baby poops only when there is an intake. But a watch should be kept about the consistency as that conveys the status of baby’s health.

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Though we are not in the process of potty training we make sure we are in cloth nappies or undies so we don’t have poop accidents soiling the floor, carpets, beds etc. Poop becomes a part of your life in your motherhood journey. You become obsessed more with the poop history where you will walk , speak, sleep with the poop. I went a step ahead and got a poopy print diaper from the Superbottoms. You will understand me only if you are a cloth diapering mom!!
As every phase goes on this phase will also move on. It’s afterall a small experience and every Mom would definitely go through this atleast once in their life !! After all life is all about finding happiness and cheer in every minute things happening dawn to dusk !! Happy peek-a-p(b)oo mommies !! 😉
Parenting

Hidden Pearl Hijab Review

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A hijab is something close to me. I started to wear my hijab when I was in my 8th Grade and then it was ON and off and my hijab collection grew with me. Mostly I would prefer the readymades which are stitched for some reason but later changed my collections to the wonderful piece of cloth.

Hijab according to me should me comfortable and beautiful. It should be breathable too. Being an Indian my most collections would be Pashnima shawls or the stoles. But now the list is a good number. When Hidden pearls contacted me I readily accepted to review it. The parcel came after a long wait as it had to cross boundaries. As soon I opened the parcel I was able to see a handwritten card with a welcome message. It attracted me the most. And the scarves maa shaa allah! It was very soft. Being a mommy of a toddler-to-be I have few criterias when selecting a hijab

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  1. Should be easy to drape and not fly in air and it should be intact in place.
  2. Should be breathable and beautiful as it adds the interest on the beholder
  3. Should be long enough so I can cover my hair as well as my big chest
  4. Should be in place with the tucks as I don’t want to risk with the baby by using pins
  5. Should be mommy/toddler friendly

I was asked a couple of choices and I did select  Diamante  and Tassel grey.

Diamante is a 100% cotton and I really felt very light when wearing it. I wore the hijab on a dinner date with my family where we had spent approximately 2 hours and in this condition, the hijab was in place without any complaints.

We had a surprising snow time which happened during the first week of December and you won’t believe how excited I was and the way I jumped in joy was crazy of course. My toddler would have thought what the hell mama is doing? In a hurry I had to wear tassel grey hijab. This was so breathable and I felt it couldn’t be worn without an undercap the moment I received it. But I was proven wrong as without the undercover it stayed in position. But ofcourse for the excitement I had and dancing in the snow with my toddler it had to move from place.

The hijabs all washed well and didn’t lose colour or get damaged in an ordinary (40 degree) wash.

 

About the company :

Hidden Pearls is a UK-based shop that sells a variety of Hijabs, Hijab Pins, Handbags/Purses and various types of Islamic gifts including Eid Gifts. Their hijab varieties include several types of Plain Hijabs, Crinkle, Chiffon, Jersey, Pom Pom, Turkish, Shimmer, Multi tone etc. You can check out the entire list of their Hijabs.  They have also recently added some beautiful varieties of Islamic Gifts in their shops as well.

‘Give gifts and increase in love’ was reminded by our beloved Prophet PBUH. With this theme, Hidden Pearls is doing a regular & deluxe gift box which offers a beautiful hijab (2 in the Deluxe box) from their luxury collection, a set of gorgeous hijab pins and an everyday essential hijab bonnet or ninja cap! Along with this, you would get additional items in your box ranging from chocolates, pretty earrings, a bow etc. Check out their regular and deluxe boxes at Hidden Pearls under Islamic-Gifts. Hidden Pearls are also getting ready to launch Eid Presents for Kids.

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The items for this review were provided at no cost by the product supplier in return for a fair and honest review.  All opinions in this review are my own and in no way influenced Hidden Pearl Hijabs.

 

Activities · Environment · motherhood · Parenting

Gross Motor- & How do I build that in my Child?

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We have entered the toddler stage now and lately I can notice she becomes little aggressive and at times gets irritated when she is unable to reach a goal she has set. This happens in a child when they aren’t able to engage with the gross motor skill of theirs. When we reach this irritation stage, we move out and speak with the nature and explore the nature as she loves to explore the Nature. The main goal is to deviate our mind from the situation so that they calm down and don’t think about the loss. Now, being the season Fall, it’s actually easy to walk in the community and do lot of stuffs with the dry leaves around. We love to catch the leaves that are falling down as its not that easy to catch the leaves. What best can be an activity which a baby and mommy can love other than this?
With this we run and loose all the energy we have and its really best way to build our gross motor skill.
It might be latin and greek  for few mommies; so let’s skeleton what’s gross motor skill?
Gross motor movements  are nothing but the kids use  large muscle load or movements and these are the movements that use the whole body to complete the task. TASKS such as walking, crawling, jumping, sitting, standing,balancing etc.,  concentrate on daily activities.
Gross motor skills involves the coordination of eyes, hand movements,legs etc. When baby is in the infant stage gross motor skill was important and necessary to hold hands, hold their head upright, crawl and then sit and then walk. When they grow into toddlers and as we say they grow big they just refine their skills. Al hamdulilah. Almighty’s beauty is really great. He created the Adam [A.S] and Hawa [A.S] but with the help of studies we are understanding the behind the scenes of Almighty we can say.
Gross motor activities can help your baby/toddler to sweat as they keep on moving and get tired.
Lets see which are the areas gain limelight with the help of Gross motor skills:
1. Muscle tone
2. Muscle strength
3.motor planning like when to start what to do and when to stop.
4.sensory processing
5. Balance
6. Eye hand coordination
7.knowing their body parts
These are the few activities which we have done to improve or work with the gross motor skills:
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Walking on a pillow
Walking around a hoopla
Catching the leaves falling down from the tree
Crossing the obstacle
Trying to crawl using a tunnel
Playing with a ball
Moving the ball with a leg
Jumping on a sofa/couch
Trying to walk on the clothes
Hopping In and OUT of a hoopla
If you feel you need to shed some sweat join in with your kiddos and work on this!! I guarantee you will enjoy them for sure.
Activities · baby · Environment · Milestone · motherhood · Parenting

Growing up as A MOM- Reasons to climb a Slide.

We went to a mall nearby where they have a small playarea. They had a small slide over there and babyA being small i didn’t think she could climb the slide. When she did everyone gave me a strange look but i loved her spirit and started to film it and enjoyed the spirit in her with pride. Later when I came back home and sat back and analyzed why did I enjoy it, i came up with a list. So now I am going to share why a child should be allowed to climb the slide.
1. A child can climb the slide only when they put in their complete strength and energy. Its a form of being active and a form of exercise. And a person cannot climb to the top just like that. It needs complete determination and energy and self motivation ofcourse.
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2. As i said climbing the top cannot happen without will power and self motivation. To reach the top the child will analyse and find out a way to reach the top. Hence creativity is kindled in the child. The gross motor skills also play a keyrole.
3. A child cannot reach the top in the first attempt so here the kid is able to learn the concepts of failure and success. The kid is able to learn how to accept failures positively and pile up the confidence within to transfer the failures as stepping stones to grab success finally.
4. The child is able to learn how to achieve the goal and what are ways necessary to achieve the goal.
5. The child is able to trust him/her. And also learns how to solve a problem.
These are the ways which i figured out. If you agree with me please do share with us why do you feel its necessary for a child to climb a slide or any other sport or game that looks apparently large for the age!! Do share if you like this article.